Don’t complain – Andy Dufresne, in the great film “The Shawshank Redemption” said it well, ‘I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying.‘ I can either sit in my misery (which always passes to a bright moment followed by a different misery) and whine the whole time OR look at it a specific time that’ll pass. There is nothing more annoying to me than my three-year-old whining for a whole day. But I let it pass because she is three. How grown folks choose to complain about everything boggles my mind. To complain is to dig your own grave, build the box, lie in it and wait to get buried. To complain is to give in.
Find hobbies – for me, it’s been going to the gym 2-3 times a week to run on the treadmill, work on my back and get in shape. It also means getting into reading some novels that have nothing to do with my work and playing some video games. All these things are nice relaxing moments that remind me that all will be okay.
Make the most of the time given for family – like I said earlier, my family time has presently been limited due interim changes but it is important to show Wifey and the kids that when I am here, I am here. It also means not complaining about church work or fatigue either, especially in front of the kids. The last thing I want is for our kids to hate things because I was always a downer about stuff (except for the following: The Maple Leafs, all NBA teams other than the Lakers, people who didn’t get the LOST finale...and list will grow…). It is crazy how much our kids act like us, even when we aren’t paying attention.
Do the essentials well – in an interim season, there are simply some things that won’t get done or at least done well. But there always core things that can’t suffer. So I am own working out those things really well. And what I can delegate, I delegate.
Rest – This needs not major explanation. Sleep, vacation, enjoy a pie and coffee…the restful stuff.
These things have helped me (so far) keep my brain and heart in check when the pressure of life hits hard.
How about you? How do you deal with stress and pressure (after crying and hermit crab-ing yourself)?